All of us have been insulted at least once in our lives. That feeling of humiliation starts to emerge in your mind the moment you hear ill about yourself in front of others.
But how do you know an insult when you hear one? Sometimes when you hear something displeasing about yourself, you don't accept it. At times it hurts you and at times it doesn't. What does the manner in which a negation impacts one depend upon?
The answer to this question lies with the negator ~ who he is and what he has. For instance, a person, with a good name and a higher post than you, comes up to you and starts saying bad things about you. You'll start taking his negation as insults. The more reputed a negator is, the more his negation may hurt. The negator will no longer remain any arbitrary negator but will be labelled as an insulter in the eyes of the one being insulted and his negation as insults.
What about the other insulters ~ the ones who don't have a good name? Why do they're insults hurt? It's, again, because of what ~ rather who ~ is on their side. If a negator has a majority of people on his side, his negations are bound to hurt ~ unless you to have someone at your back.
Consider an incident. A beggar going down the street looked at a man's strange but well dressed attire and started laughing at him, rudely. The man ~ surprised after being subjected to something so random and unexpected ~ just raised an eyebrow and continued walking further as if nothing happened. As the beggar wasn't at all anybody reputed, the man didn't take his act insulting.
A quick statement just to summarize the passage: To what extent a negation hurts one is directly proportional to the reputation of the negator. You can learn from this that it's always wise to be cognizant of the insulter's reputation before you start feeling like an ugly duckling. Who knows?....You might turn out to be a swan after all.
But how do you know an insult when you hear one? Sometimes when you hear something displeasing about yourself, you don't accept it. At times it hurts you and at times it doesn't. What does the manner in which a negation impacts one depend upon?
The answer to this question lies with the negator ~ who he is and what he has. For instance, a person, with a good name and a higher post than you, comes up to you and starts saying bad things about you. You'll start taking his negation as insults. The more reputed a negator is, the more his negation may hurt. The negator will no longer remain any arbitrary negator but will be labelled as an insulter in the eyes of the one being insulted and his negation as insults.
What about the other insulters ~ the ones who don't have a good name? Why do they're insults hurt? It's, again, because of what ~ rather who ~ is on their side. If a negator has a majority of people on his side, his negations are bound to hurt ~ unless you to have someone at your back.
Consider an incident. A beggar going down the street looked at a man's strange but well dressed attire and started laughing at him, rudely. The man ~ surprised after being subjected to something so random and unexpected ~ just raised an eyebrow and continued walking further as if nothing happened. As the beggar wasn't at all anybody reputed, the man didn't take his act insulting.
A quick statement just to summarize the passage: To what extent a negation hurts one is directly proportional to the reputation of the negator. You can learn from this that it's always wise to be cognizant of the insulter's reputation before you start feeling like an ugly duckling. Who knows?....You might turn out to be a swan after all.
